I’m writing this letter to try to get some help from government agencies that are supposed to be in the best interest of children in my home State of Indiana.
My daughter and her husband have lived in Southern Indiana (Shoals) their entire lives and raised 4 children there. They have financially struggled their entire lives but always maintained a sense of honesty and fairness dealing with every unforeseen thing that came their way. But now, something has happened that has taken them by surprise and has given me reason to ask for help (and understanding) for them. THEY ARE BEYOND BEING DEVASTATED !! They are beaten down by the ’system’ both local & state and are given no reasonably understandable answers.
For the past 5 years that have taken on the very important task of raising their 6 year old grandson after custody was taken from his mother.
During this time, they have complied with all measures asked of them - impromptu visits by county workers, random drug tests, classes in Evansville (when they barely had money for gasoline) (county officials say they don’t have records of any of this.) - they have taken him for supervised visitation with his mother (while the mother didn’t have to provide any form of support or effort for these visits). They have filled out many many pages of paperwork thinking they were getting closer to being qualified as Foster Parents (with financial aid) or to them the better option, being able to adopt their grandchild as their own. Last year they took on a new grandchild She and their grandson were supposed to be kept together as a unit. Because they have different Dads, They had to make separate supervised visitation dates for each of them, making their travel time, etc. double.
I am writing this letter to try to get some help from government agencies that are supposed to be in the best interest of children in my home State of Indiana.
He began school this year - just a week ago – They put him on the school bus at their home in the morning and in the afternoon, when he didn’t get off the bus they panicked and later found out that he had been “placed” in the home of The birth father, who has never paid ANY child support or provided any type of support whatsoever, nor had he EVER spent a night with him.. .he has NEVER spent the night anywhere other than with his grandparents. When after a few days, the biological father’s live-in girlfriend couldn’t handle having him there, he was returned to his grandparents home.
Thinking all was well, the routine of daily life began again. But.. .once again, one morning he was put on the school bus and that evening, he didn’t come home.
Calling around they found that he was being ‘placed’ (yet again) with a
Mennonite family in another town. But whomever was handling the
‘handover’ forgot to pick him up from school that afternoon, so he was left waiting outside with the principal of the school while everyone scurried about trying to ‘patch up’ the horrible job they had done. What could he have been thinking when he wasn’t allowed to get on his regular bus to go home? What could he have been thinking as he watched all the other students get on their buses towards their homes and he was held back with a woman (principal) that he had only met a few days ago? Then picked up by a county worker and driven to a home and people he had never met before and told he was now ‘home’?
This all seems so cloak and dagger when a family cannot maintain their grandchildren’s welfare without having situations played out without their knowledge or consent.
He has gone through so much in his young life. On visitation days with his mother, many time she had ‘passed’ and not shown up and he has said things like, “My mommy doesn’t want to see me today”.. ..things that wound the hearts of hid grandparents. Then when he was taken from school and placed in the home of his biological dad (with NO WARNING!),
he thought his grandparents didn’t want him now, without warning, he
has been placed in a home in a different county and I have been told that his grandparents are to have NO COMMUNICATION OR CONNECTION WITH HIM UNTIL HE IS 18 YEARS OLD!!
What is his little mind thinking? Why were the the grandparents never allowed any financial support for diapers, formula, etc. all these years? Were they allowed any type of financial support? Was the state saving money by not advocating for this family? Is the state prepared to pay for his physiological therapy as he ages wondering why he was so unlovable that his own grandparents didn’t want him after living with them almost his entire life?
What happened? Why were they not kept informed about what they needed to do to be able to raise their * grandchildren)?
I do not live in Indiana any longer but still maintain all my family ties. This is extremely upsetting..this is my daughter and her family and my greatgrandchildren.
Where do we turn for help? I feel something needs to be done and soon. His life is at risk here and no one seems to have any answers for the Grandparents family.
The grandparents need to be returned to their loving grandparents quickly and the entire family should receive some answers as to why these children were taken away in a cloak of secrecy.. ..better yet, they should also receive an apology for the past five years of struggle they have endured at the hands of whomever facilitated the removal of the children.
The removal of the two grandchildren has been a horrible nightmare played upon this entire family. When his was with his biological father for less than a week, he cried every day and night for his grandparents and they for him. This latest incident of removing both children again has taken an unbelievable toll on grandparents. They are desolate. They are numb. The are inconsolable.
What can be done? Who can this family appeal to? Where can they go for help?
The granddaughter has been taken from the home also.. .she has been with the grand parents family since she was 2 days old.
I am writing to try to perhaps have someone in charge to take a look, a good in depth look, at the file of this family and of the state and/or county workers who worked that file and see that most likely it was wrong to take these children away from the only home they have ever had until August
2010.
I would appreciate very much your help in this matter.
Very Sincerely,
A grandmother
Our family is/has been patriotic to our last breathe and drop of blood. I feel we deserve better treatment than this for our loved ones. Please help us by looking into this matter.